THE EVOLUTION OF POSSIBILITY MANAGEMENT FEELINGS INITIATIONS
Since 1975, small teams of researchers across Europe and the Americas have been exploring how feelings provide value for a human life. Since 1998 these authentic adulthood initiatory processes have been made available in Expand The Box trainings and Possibility Labs. More recently emotional healing and initiatory processes are delivered in Possibility Coaching, Possibility Team, Feelings Practitioner sessions, Possibility Mediation, and Possibility Psychology.
Modern culture teaches that feelings are a design error, that anger, sadness, and fear are 'negative', 'bad', 'wrong', 'childish', and have no place in human life. Furthermore, feelings should be avoided, suppressed, withheld, and controlled... with psychopharmaceuticals if necessary. Modern culture regards joy as the only 'good' feeling, but only in moderation.
Through delivering thousands of healing and adulthood initiatory processes especially during the past two decades we have discovered that the emotional teachings from modern culture are not true. In fact, modern culture's teachings are SO not true that they may cause serious diseases such as Parkinson's, Depression, Inflammatory diseases, and even cancer. One may begin to wonder why modern culture would would make the suppression of feelings and the banishment of authentic initiations some of its central characteristics.
Possibility Management Edgeworkers soon reached the limits of modern culture's thoughtware and began new Experiments.
Around 1991 we discovered Valerie Lankford's profound Thoughtmap of 4 Feelings. Valerie's map shows how the complete feelings spectrum is created out of mixtures of anger, sadness, fear, and joy, just like Leonardo da Vinci painted his Mona Lisa by mixing primary colors.
Your relationship to your feelings changes entirely depending upon if you stick to the Old Thoughtmap of Feelings (where it is not okay to feel), or you shift to the New Thoughtmap of Feelings (where feelings are neutral energy and information resources empowering you in a creative, ecstatic, and relationally-intimate adult life).
Upgrading your feelings thoughtware is as astonishing as shifting from the flat-world map of the Earth to the round-world map of the Earth. The world itself has not changed, but everything works differently.
Identifying the sensations, body postures, facial expressions, and sounds of each of the four primary Feelings makes the Emotional Body and the domain of Feelings understandable and tame enough even for the men to navigate!
It is so liberating to memorize and use the sentence, "I feel mad, sad, glad, or scared because _____________."
Your clear, responsible communication helps you feel heard, and it helps the other person feel safe enough to be with you whatever you are feeling. So many incomplete and broken communications can be suddenly healed.
EMOTIONS ARE NOT FEELINGS
Around 2007 our Possibilitators discovered an additional breathtaking distinction: there is a world of difference between Feelings and Emotions!
In short: Feelings are for handling things. Emotions are for healing things.
EMOTIONAL REACTIVITY IS NOT STELLATING
Emotional Reactivity such as rage-fit, panic-attack, unstoppable sobbing, or hysterical laughter are not Stellating, because such outbursts are unconscious. Throwing dishes, slamming doors, kicking the dog, driving away in a huff, binging on sweets, going for alcohol or weed... is not Conscious Feelings.
Reactivity from a Button, Hook, Trigger, Trauma, or Imbalance is mechanical. If we give you the same stimulus you give us the same reaction, every time. For your Gremlin, this never gets boring. For your Being, this is a desperate life.
Stellating does not use Emotions.
Stellating uses Conscious Feelings.
Stellating starts in the ADULT EGO STATE and, when successful, enters the ARCHETYPAL EGO STATE.
Emotions are stimulated by beliefs, stories, dogma, gossip, conclusions, assumptions, intrigue, and projections from 4 external Authorities that hang together as four of your six Ego States:
CHILD EGO STATE: Where you experience Incomplete Emotions from your childhood. This could be looking for someone to love you enough, feeling abandoned, feeling betrayed, feeling a lack of trust, complaining, blaming, feeling unprotected, alone, and scared... trying to manipulate others to want you and take care of you through being cute or sexy or helpless... this is your Child Ego State.
PARENT EGO STATE: Where you adopt other people's Emotions as if they are true, as if they are the 'one right way'. Your Parent Emotions originate in corporate marketing campaigns, religious beliefs, parents rules, political campaigns, or society's news media. Being in the Parent Ego State is when you are armed with knowing the 'right' way, knowing 'better', enforcing on others the rules you have hated.
GREMLIN EGO STATE: Where your purpose originates in the Shadow Principles of your Gremlin, such as revenge, superiority, deception, making wrong, belittling, betrayal, withholding, self-hatred, arrogance, etc. Your schadenfreude ecstasy confirms that you are in your Gremlin Ego State.
DEMON EGO STATE: Where you invite 'Riders' (energetic vampire entities) to attach themselves to your Being and suck out your life energy. This is a survival strategy. The Riders make you weak and confused so that others do not perceive you as dangerous and decide to 'kill' you. If you do not begin your authentic adulthood initiatory processes when you are 18 years old, the Mixed Emotions of depression and despair might feel normal for you. Keeping such persistent parasites on your neck can lead to hopelessness, listlessness, and suicide. No one can banish Riders for you. No one can stop you from banishing Riders and closing the Café whenever you get sick of it. (Please see SPARK 135 for further precisions.)
THE NEW THOUGHTMAP OF FEELINGS
In the new world established by the New Thoughtmap of Feelings you have new Possibilities.
For example, you can calibrate your Feelings Detector - located as a dial in the center of your chest - so that you can accurately detect which feeling you are feeling, what percentage big it is up to 100% maximum archetypal intensity, what it is about, and if it is a Feeling or an Emotion.
When you know what you are feeling and you make contact with someone else, you know what they are feeling. This is the beginning of Emotional Body intimacy.
You notice that all day and all night you are actually feeling angry, sad, glad, and scared about every single object, word, sound, image, movement, plant, animal, thought, and feeling. With your new distinctions you can navigate your Emotional Body experiences like a surfer navigates waves.
As you lower your Numbness Bar and perceive the Low Level Feelings and Emotions (from 1% to 10% intense), you discover that you can make decisions, plans, boundaries, and offers using the wisdom and energy without having to emotionally explode, run away, shut down, or freak out.
The information and energy of your 4 Feelings becomes a powerful creative resource for you to use in your daily life both personally and professionally.
And still something more is possible. We did not see this coming...
Around 2010 in Germany we discovered Stellating!
Ho, man! This is something utterly remarkable.
The term 'Stellating' means 'to change a planet into a star'.
The difference between a planet and a star is that a planet absorbs more energy than it gives off, whereas a star radiates more energy than it absorbs.
Human beings are designed to be 'stars', but we are conditioned to be 'planets'.
Think of the abundant and coercive ways you are invited to be a 'planet' with 'soldier-like' qualities:
Now think of the extraordinary potentials packed inside your Being that you long to radiate as a 'star' (not a 'movie star' or 'rock star', but a star that is a source of life energy for serving your people):
The transformation from being a 'planet' to being a 'star' is entire.
Your purpose changes, paradigm changes, strategy changes, vision of what is possible changes. The procedure is fully engaging. The star comes into existence as the planet starts on fire from the inside out. It can be intense... intensely Fun. Stellating is authentic adventure.
Nobody can Stellate for you. Nobody can stop you from Stellating.
In Possibility Management we deliver Stellating in the particularly-safe-and-clear spaces of Possibility Labs. There you have a trained spaceholder - a Trainer - who has already Stellated her four feelings archetypes and brought to life the Pirate Sorceress Warrioress Queen Goddess Woman in herself (Pirate Magician King Spiritual Warrior Man). This is what is holding and navigating space for your authentic adulthood initiatory process of Stellating. It is fantastic to be in that space.
The transformation in Stellating Anger, for example, occurs in the moment you consciously experience and express 100% maximum Archetypal Anger in a held space with a trained witness (Trainer) for no reason for as long as you want. In that moment, when you are 'out of your mind', your entire nervous system changes its Point Of Origin. It re-anchors from the mediocre world to the extraordinary world.
The archetypal territory of Anger is inside of you. It always has been. It always will be.
You go into the territory of Anger and the anger for no reason. Then you stop the anger for no reason. It is as loud and dangerous as being personally attacked and torn apart by Godzilla. If it is not loud and painful, you are not doing it... you are only thinking about doing it. No cigar.
Anger (as well as sadness, fear, and joy) does not get bigger than 100% big. How could it?
When you dive 100% into the archetypal territory of Anger inside of you and the Archetypal Force of Anger rips through your nerves, heart, lungs, the veins in your neck and the roar from your throat, the Archetypal Switch flips to ON, for the rest of your life. From that moment on, you contain the Anger. It does not contain you. You own your Anger. Is does not own you. You are bigger than Archetypal Anger. It is not bigger than you.
Even at 100% intense Archetypal Anger you are okay. You can go into that territory any time you want, in an instant. And stop, when you want, in an instant. This is a Feeling, not an Emotion.
After Stellating Anger, go for Stellating Fear, so you can own your fear and your fear no longer owns you. You can dive completely into 100% Archetypal Fear and be totally okay. Same with Sadness, and Joy.
Perhaps one day - if it is your calling - you can return the favor by holding and navigating Stellating for others.
Think of the 7 billion uninitiated humans on planet Earth. There are plenty of Clients waiting for you to show up and do your job for them. You do not have to spend the days of your life working for a corporation to live on planet Earth. You could actually use the days of your life doing what you came here to do.
It can help to know that what you expected to find here when you were born, is what you came here to build.
It could also help you to know that Stellating your 4 Feelings gives you needed resources to do what you came here to do, no matter how big it is. Stellating unleashes you as a an Archetypal Force of Nature. Why not do this? It is your human birth right.
THE FEELINGS ARCHETYPES
NOTE: The use of the word 'Archetype' in Possibility Management has no connection to the Jungian / Freudian Psychoanalytical Context. We use the word 'Archetype' as it comes from the context of Possibility and Radical Responsibility. The two uses are not related.
Learning about Stellating is not Stellating. What you can understand is third prize, more of a curiosity, a remarkable thing. Do not think that understanding a thing is the thing.
Each Stellating process initiates an Archetypal structure that has been dormant in you since birth, a 'Feelings Archetype'. Until they are Stellated, your 4 Feelings Archetypes are still wrapped in plastic. The batteries are not installed. The Archetypes are not turned on yet. Each successful Stellating initiation brings one more of your 4 Feelings Archetypes online in your daily life, for the rest of your life.
Stellating Anger ignites the Warrioress / Warrior Feelings Archetype in you.
Stellating Sadness ignites the Lover / Communicator Feelings Archetype in you.
Stellating Fear ignites the Sorceress / Wizard Feelings Archetype in you.
Stellating Joy ignites the Possibilitator / Good Queen / Good King Feelings Archetype in you.
Trying to describe to you the experience of Being, for example, a stellated Warrioress / Warrior, would, at this point, be counterproductive. Whatever image you received from my description could easily be held onto by your Box / Gremlin as a barrier against finding your own experience. Then you would compare and judge your own experience. You would analyze with your mind to try to force your own experience to match the picture you have of how it should be. The experience of Warrioress / Warrior DOES NOT OCCUR IN YOUR MIND.
I leave it like this. The Doorway is open. You are standing there... somewhere... far away from the Doorway? Within one arm's reach of the Doorway? What are you going to do about it?
We will see...
Phase 1 & Phase 2 of Feelings Work
PHASE 1 OF FEELINGS WORK
Phase 1 of feelings work is expanding your abilities to consciously feel.
During PHASE 1 you:
PHASE 2 OF FEELINGS WORK
Direct the energy and intelligence of your Stellated Feelings Archetypes and Conscious Feelings to:
We suggest Stellating Anger first, because Stellating Anger activates the Warrioress / Warrior in your life.
This is the Doer, the Maker, the Earth Guardian who can then Hold Space and make it safe for the other 3 Feelings Archetypes to come to life.
What good would it be to have a Queen / King, and a Sorceress / Magician, and a Lover / Communicator, if there is no Warrioress / Warrior to protect the Queendom?
Preparations for Stellating Anger include Lowering Your Numbness Bar, 3-3-3 Process, Expand The Box training, Possibility Team, and Rage Club.
Stellating Anger is a Floor Process Initiation where each person is held down by other people (calmly and comfortably - men holding men, women holding women) in a Lying Rage Hold.
For qualified Trainers - meaning Trainers who have already Stellated their Feeling Archetypes in Possibility Labs - the Stellating Anger process write-up is available at the PM Processes website.
We suggest Stellating Fear second. This is because Unconscious Fear can stop you from so much aliveness that Stellating Sadness or Joy would not be complete if you have not Stellated Fear first.
Stellating Fear turns on the Evolutionary Sorceress / Magician (Creator / Designer) Feelings Archetype.
Being bigger than your Fear frees you to go to the edge of existing Gameworlds and become a Bridge to creating next-culture Gameworlds that make the existing Gameworlds irrelevant.
Being able to feel Conscious Fear helps you Improvise, Go Nonlinear, Go Unreasonable, enter the 9 Gaps, Create Necessity, Create Possibility, use your Possibility Paintbrush, and Create healing and transformational Story Worlds to deliver 3 Phase Healing.
Preparations for Stellating Fear include Lowering Your Numbness Bar with regards to consciously feeling low levels of fear. Fear Club can help inspiringly.
Stellating Fear is a Floor Process Initiation where the client lies alone on the floor and drops into the Archetypal Territory of Fear that has always been there inside of them.
For qualified Trainers - meaning Trainers who have already Stellated their Feeling Archetypes in Possibility Labs - the Stellating Fear process write-up is available at the PM Processes website.
We suggest Stellating Sadness after Stellating Anger and Fear, because whereas Stellating Anger and Stellating Fear can be 'hard' or 'sharp' experiences, Stellating Sadness is such a soft and fluid experience.
Stellating Sadness activates the Lover / Communicator in your life. This is when deep, non-enmeshed connection is established as a collaboration for making, for example, 5 Body Intimacy Journeys into Archetypal Domains to bring back treasures that change the status quo.
If you cannot grieve and let go of your current identity, you won't have much chance of evolving and expanding into the initiated interactions of adulthood.
Preparations for Stellating Sadness include Box and Being Initiation, Box Is Optional Initiation, as well as completing victimhood relations to parents, society, and circumstances. This removes the motivation for defendedness. Stellating Sadness starts with personally navigating to undefendedness in the Presence of another. This is whole group process done in chairs in pairs, or in concentric circles of chairs all facing out with shoulders touching or arms interlinked.
For qualified Trainers - meaning Trainers who have already Stellated their Feeling Archetypes in Possibility Labs - the Stellating Sadness process write-up is available at the PM Processes website.
Our experience suggests the importance of Stellating Anger, Fear, and Sadness before trying to Stellate Joy.
This is because after Stellating Anger, Fear, and Sadness, Joy seems to spontaneously Stellate almost without effort.
Stellated Joy does not look like the fake forced joy shown on television talk shows or sports events. Joy often emerges in nearly-invisible ecstatic moments, one after the other in your daily life, that is, when you permit it.
Stellating Joy turns on the Possibilitator. This is the High Level Fun explorer, the next-culture Vision holder, building Circles and Navigating Winning Happening games. She is often the one who goes first.
We had to invent the term 'Possibilitator' as the name for a Stellated Radically Responsible High Drama Being serving Bright Principles.
Modern culture has so many words for unconscious Gremlin serving Shadow Principles: villain, terrorist, money-launderer, drug dealer, sex trafficker, corporate manager, thief, scam artist, priest, spammer, banker, politician, murderer, mercenary, assassin, pedophile, lawyer... Even a majority of the United States Supreme Court Justices are owned by corporate interests. But we have few words for servants of Bright Principles...
Stellating Joy is a whole group circle process done in a totally chaotic but safely held space. Why is this? Because when feelings are Stellated they ignite at the level of maturity they were when you turned them off. This means what comes back first is their unconscious irresponsible expression.
For Anger this is aggression, blaming, revenge.
For Fear this is panic, withdrawal, paralysis.
For Sadness this is a helpless child drowning in the endless ocean of sobs.
For Joy... irresponsible joy comes back first, joy at the pain and suffering of others. Ha-Ha! I win! You lose! Gotcha! That's right. Stellating Joy unleashes at first a roomful of powerful, insanely irresponsible Gremlins. It is a very tricky space to hold effectively. Perhaps that is why Stellating Joy is such a rare initiation in Possibility Labs.
For qualified Trainers - meaning Trainers who have already Stellated their Feeling Archetypes in Possibility Labs - the Stellating Joy process write-up is available at the PM Processes website.
After decades of experimenting we have come to strongly recommend Stellating your anger first, before Stellating fear, then sadness, then joy. This is because through Stellating anger, the inner structure referred to as your Warrior or Warrioress Archetype is activated. Then you have the stamina, determination, focus, and clarity to hold space for yourself for activating the fear, sadness, and finally the joy feelings Archetypes.
Stellating joy should be last, because during Stellation, feelings come back at the same level of maturity they were when you shut them down, which means not mature at all. Unleashing high intensities of irresponsible joy during joy Stellation means full-blown Gremlin will explode into the room. You need to be personally prepared to navigate this inner chaos with an already Stellated Warrioress, Sorceress and Communicator.
As mentioned in the book Conscious Feelings by Clinton Callahan, Stellating is a formalized adulthood initiation to be directed by trained initiators. Before arranging to be in the company of such persons for Stellating, there are many preparations you can make that will help assure success.
Matrix Code STELLATE.01
Learn to consciously and clearly say, “No!” and “Stop!” which are words often missing from modern culture vocabulary. You may be blocking these very necessary intimacy-negotiation words for fear of no longer being a ‘nice girl’ or ‘good boy’. Further clarifications and experiments are available at http://saystop.mystrikingly.com.
Matrix Code STELLATE.02
Make a Minimized NOW your home. Stellating begins in a very small NOW that is free of stories, assumptions, expectations, projections, positions, conclusions, etc. It will be very useful if you already have access to, and are comfortable in, a Minimized NOW. Further clarifications and experiments are available at http://minimizenow.mystrikingly.com.
Matrix Code STELLATE.03
Practice lowering your ‘Numbness Bar’ in order to apply the intelligence and energy of your low-level feelings and emotions. It may seem counterintuitive but by experiencing the benefits of Low-Level Feelings and Emotions in your daily life, this prepares the ground for experiencing the benefits of more intense levels of anger, sadness, fear, and joy. Further clarifications and experiments are available at http://numbnessbar.mystrikingly.com.
Matrix Code STELLATE.04
Practice splitting your attention to notice where you are in your 5 bodies and what is happening there. This is called ‘Inner Navigation’. Not knowing where you are makes it nearly impossible to get to where you want to go. It is like staring at a map of town, wanting to go to the library, but not having the little “X” that indicates where you are. You don’t know whether to go right, left, or straight. Further clarifications and experiments are available at http://innernavigating.mystrikingly.com.
Matrix Code STELLATE.05
All five of your bodies – physical, intellectual, emotional, energetic, and archetypal – provide you with valuable resources when you relate with them as allies. Getting into resonance and alignment with yourself is called ‘becoming present’. Distinctions and possibilities may be at your feet, but if you are spread out over the future and the past, you cannot make use of what is already in your hands. Stellating requires Presence. Do experiments to develop maximum Presence before trying to Stellate anything. Further clarifications and experiments are at http://becomepresent.mystrikingly.com.
Matrix Code STELLATE.06
Investigate your ‘Memetic Construct’ regarding high intensity feelings and emotions. Choose a person you have some healthy fear about to interview you regarding your beliefs, attitudes, conclusions, and understandings – in other words, your memes – surrounding you personally experiencing and expressing high intensity feelings. Ask the interviewer to write their questions and your answers into your own Beep! Book so that you can distill your Memetic Construct. Further clarifications and examples of Memetic Engineering are available at http://memeticengineering.mystrikingly.com.
Matrix Code STELLATE.07
One of your 13 Tools on your Possibilitator Toolbelt is your ‘Sword Of Clarity’. This energetic tool functions as both an Inner and Outer Navigation aid to find or declare what is so. By practicing with your Sword Of Clarity so your first effort is to determine what is really going on - at the essential level, meaning beyond Low Drama, Hidden Purpose, manipulation, projections and stories - your feet have something solid to stand on. Finding a stable ground is an important as an ongoingly improving skill as you reach the thoughtware edges of modern culture and enter the Liquid States of authentic adulthood initiatory processes such as Stellating. It turns out that you do not need very much to stand on. Develop your Clarity Sword use to the point of always having something to stand on, even when you are flying. Further clarifications and experiments are available at swordofclarity.mystrikingly.com.
Matrix Code STELLATE.08
Locate and unleash your ‘real voice’. Joseph Chilton Pearce, author of The Crack In The Cosmic Egg, and Magical Child, defines intelligence as 'the ability to relate'. Speaking in your 'real voice' is central to radical relating. Imagine trying to relate using the voice of your parents, or the voice you developed to survive as a child. Stellating can only occur in your 'real voice', so it is important to have already found your 'real voice' before you try Stellating any of your feelings Archetypes. This experiment is to liberate your 'real voice' as preparation for Stellating anger. Further clarifications and experiments are available at http://realvoice.mystrikingly.com.
Matrix Code STELLATE.09
Take on the 3-3-3 Practice for three months (even if you have done it already) specifically to prepare for Stellating anger. This exercise is straightforward: lie on your bed, experience and express rage at its full depths and breadth for three minutes, three times a week, for three months. Regularly doing 3-3-3 in the privacy of your own home helps blow the ‘dust, dry leaves, and old spider webs’ out of your emotional energy tubes. Unblocking your tubes before going into the Stellating initiation is extremely worthwhile. Further clarifications and experiments are available at http://3-3-3.mystrikingly.com.
Matrix Code STELLATE.10
Participate in a WorkTalk titled Introduction To Rage Club. Such introductions are usually given by certified Rage Club Spaceholders and are full of precious experiential distinctions. Be sure to dive fully in to any exercises they offer during the WorkTalk, and ask every question your mind or heart longs to know about Stellating. The link to a calendar of online and offline Introduction To Rage Clubs is given at http://rageclub.mystrikingly.com.